Hi Claire S - So sorry to hear about your particular situation - is there anything that you mother actually likes to do - this sounds very very difficult for you - main thing is to get everything in place first off ie benefits (pip) and lasting power of attorney etc and then at least that would be one job done although I appreciate that this may be difficult. Maybe speak to admiral nurses who may well have come across this particular situation before in terms of your mother and they provide fantastic advice - good luck but I have found Talking point a good sounding board and I am sure someone will respond who has been in a similar situation to yourself on here - good luck