hello all, wonder if anybody knows how I can change my mother’s whole personality!!
My dad has mid-stage Alzheimer’s; at the moment he just has complete short term memory loss, is now just about still able to make a cup of tea and is quite with it mostly. He has no dreadful behaviour traits yet. He can’t chose his own clothes but still washes and shaves himself.
But I swear mother will kill him one day. She absolutely hates him, can’t say one civil word to him and makes his life a living hell.
When she’s around he becomes a shivering wreck but when he’s alone with either my sister or me he’s like his old self.
He goes to day care two days a week and every six weeks or so goes off for a week’s respite. My sister and I visit once a week and mum has a cleaner and a gardener. So mum does get breaks from him.
Dad is 87 and mum 85.
She isn’t be open to counselling or anti-depressants. She won’t have carers in the house.
It’s heartbreaking to watch her scream and shout at him just because he forgets things. I’ve tried talking to her and tried to help in many ways but she can’t/won’t change.
Two of her grandchildren won’t visit because she’s so horrible.
Any ideas?
Thanks
My dad has mid-stage Alzheimer’s; at the moment he just has complete short term memory loss, is now just about still able to make a cup of tea and is quite with it mostly. He has no dreadful behaviour traits yet. He can’t chose his own clothes but still washes and shaves himself.
But I swear mother will kill him one day. She absolutely hates him, can’t say one civil word to him and makes his life a living hell.
When she’s around he becomes a shivering wreck but when he’s alone with either my sister or me he’s like his old self.
He goes to day care two days a week and every six weeks or so goes off for a week’s respite. My sister and I visit once a week and mum has a cleaner and a gardener. So mum does get breaks from him.
Dad is 87 and mum 85.
She isn’t be open to counselling or anti-depressants. She won’t have carers in the house.
It’s heartbreaking to watch her scream and shout at him just because he forgets things. I’ve tried talking to her and tried to help in many ways but she can’t/won’t change.
Two of her grandchildren won’t visit because she’s so horrible.
Any ideas?
Thanks