Mum is often bored and lonely throughout the day. She has no interests or hobbies and despite me encouraging her to attend day centre or other community activities they are not for her. She doesn't have much social interaction besides my visits each day, and relatives popping in briefly throughout the week. She doesn't really watch TV, never has. She just watches CCTV camera at home and can see who comes and goes. She doesn't want the radio on, doesn't read or do any puzzle books. She has the odd friend who may phone, but phones me numerous times through the day after my daily visits, often asking the same questions. I don't know what to do. She tells me what a boring old day it is. She doesn't go out once in. Friends have said they can visit or go for coffee, but she isn't interested. She has never really entertained at her home, preferring to go to others. Though since onset of Dementia, she doesn't visit friends anymore and they hardly visit her.
She doesn't think she needs a carer, nor does she want one. I am managing things as best as I can though it can be stressful with her at times. She is still quite independent. She does go out every day for breakfast, which is great, so interacts/or people watches a little then. After which, she is at home for the rest of the day/night. My brother is with her most evenings. Though I don't think they interact much but reassuring for her that someone is there.
I contacted AGEUK to look into a befriender service, there is a possibility of a telephone befriender but I don't think this will work for her, I thought perhaps 121 would be better if I am initially present, but they couldn't recommend in my area.
I feel so sad for my mum, but I'm running out of ideas. I have been getting the newspaper and magazines for her to flick thru but I don't think she really bothers. I'm finding the calls really frustrating as its constant. she doesn't seem to call anyone else. I do have to ignore them sometimes. I'm doing the best that I can, but also struggle at times. I'm considering an assessment to see if she can get a carer, even though she is really against this.
I don't know what else to do and would welcome any suggestions.
Thanks
H
She doesn't think she needs a carer, nor does she want one. I am managing things as best as I can though it can be stressful with her at times. She is still quite independent. She does go out every day for breakfast, which is great, so interacts/or people watches a little then. After which, she is at home for the rest of the day/night. My brother is with her most evenings. Though I don't think they interact much but reassuring for her that someone is there.
I contacted AGEUK to look into a befriender service, there is a possibility of a telephone befriender but I don't think this will work for her, I thought perhaps 121 would be better if I am initially present, but they couldn't recommend in my area.
I feel so sad for my mum, but I'm running out of ideas. I have been getting the newspaper and magazines for her to flick thru but I don't think she really bothers. I'm finding the calls really frustrating as its constant. she doesn't seem to call anyone else. I do have to ignore them sometimes. I'm doing the best that I can, but also struggle at times. I'm considering an assessment to see if she can get a carer, even though she is really against this.
I don't know what else to do and would welcome any suggestions.
Thanks
H