Hi All I registered on here a few years ago but not really needed it. Now we are 3 years down the line since diagnosis....
To fill you in Mum-in-Law has lived with my husband and I in an annex for 6 years. She is 89 and we have noticed a marked change in the last few months. My husband does not work so can be there for her, but I work full time. But, I can see that as she is started to get worse he is starting to worry and get down about it to the point he is trying to avoid helping her. I understand this its easier for me to take a stand back and be practical. I just worry that he wont cope yet I cannot adjust my hours anymore to help. To top that the brother in law who lives in the UK, we live outside the UK, who has seen his mother 7 times in 20 years, is being a completely bleep and making it harder for us (money need I say more!) - under our laws we needed his permission to get guardianship but he refused and now has solicitors involved. Anyway just felt that I might need a bit of support going forward, I cant get to the carers for Alzheimers day centre where we live as they do most support in the week whilst I am working and I know that my husband is not someone who would feel comfortable taking her to. Not an excuse for him just fact. As mentioned we do not have a huge support network with our local social services (not NHS) until such time as she can no longer feed herself etc so I just want to connect with some of you so I can chat and discuss what has helped you in the past that I could use. Thanks all
To fill you in Mum-in-Law has lived with my husband and I in an annex for 6 years. She is 89 and we have noticed a marked change in the last few months. My husband does not work so can be there for her, but I work full time. But, I can see that as she is started to get worse he is starting to worry and get down about it to the point he is trying to avoid helping her. I understand this its easier for me to take a stand back and be practical. I just worry that he wont cope yet I cannot adjust my hours anymore to help. To top that the brother in law who lives in the UK, we live outside the UK, who has seen his mother 7 times in 20 years, is being a completely bleep and making it harder for us (money need I say more!) - under our laws we needed his permission to get guardianship but he refused and now has solicitors involved. Anyway just felt that I might need a bit of support going forward, I cant get to the carers for Alzheimers day centre where we live as they do most support in the week whilst I am working and I know that my husband is not someone who would feel comfortable taking her to. Not an excuse for him just fact. As mentioned we do not have a huge support network with our local social services (not NHS) until such time as she can no longer feed herself etc so I just want to connect with some of you so I can chat and discuss what has helped you in the past that I could use. Thanks all
