When my brother went to mums today at 4.30 to take her teatime meal, all curtains and blinds were drawn and mum was in bed. He said she was really confused (usual) and got her up so she could have something to eat. He encouraged her to drink some water but she accused him of trying to trick her. Managed to get her to eat a little but she said she just wanted to go home to her mother and dad. She was ok when he left and carer who called at 7pm said she seemed fine. Mum has a wound on her leg following a fall which is now infected and has started a course of antibiotics today which carers are administering,plus she had her booster covid vaccination done today by a nurse from her gp practice. Upshot is it’s my turn to go see to her tomorrow and I spend most of the day with her doing whatever is needed- washing cleaning shopping etc. I suppose what I’m trying to say is that I’m scared she will be in bed again when I arrive as she doesn’t seem to know day from night. I’m overthinking things really as my gut instinct would be to let her sleep if she is asleep in bed but should I wake her. God knows she’s really had enough and has no quality of life . She doesn’t remember that one of us goes to see her every day so she always says no one ever visits and she never speaks to a living soul. Sorry for the rant but I find myself totally inadequate to deal with all this.