Hi,
Okay, I'll try and keep it as concise as I can...
My mother used to drink a LOT. Couldnt stop her as she would just go herself to get more. She was also smoking around 20-30 a day. Always been active and independent but a very awkward, difficult personality.
Three years ago she fell down half of the stairs after drinking and broke her leg. Awful break. Hospitalised. They said she'd be in two weeks. Came home 14 weeks later but after refusing physio/getting out of bed it meant she could barely walk but managed to walk from one room to the next with a zimmer phrame. But, in addition to that, after refusing to get out of bed she became doubly incontinent . My father and I used to sort her pads out but my father also got her an electric scooter for her to have some independence but, it just meant she could still go and get more drink . We shouldn't really have got the scooter but before he bought it, as she was able to walk (albeit slowly) she would still manage to get to the corner shop to buy more. Apart from restraining her, we couldnt stop it.
Went back for a review of the surgery she'd had on her broken leg as they'd put a plate in. When she had the plate put in they said that it would be removed after a year or two after the bone had regrown. Consultant said that after two years there was hardly any bone regrowth due to the amount she was smoking. They said that the plate they put in was to support the leg while the bone was growing back but as it wasn't growing back the plate could fail at any time. BUT, they couldn't take the plate out as there wasn't enough bone regrowth. Combined with the lack of bone regrowth due to smoking they weren't prepared to do anything. She either had to stop smoking or they wouldnt do anything. My mother would not stop so she just struggled along but the leg was painful.
This carried on for a few years but, the last two years (when she was 71) she started to show signs of short term memory loss. Repeatedly asking questions she'd only asked a few minutes before.
Ok, last December, she had a stroke. Got her to A&E within an hour or two. They gave her clot busting drugs but, long story short, she almost totally recovered but there is an ever so slight droop in her face (if you didn't know, you wouldnt know if you know what I mean). But, it was the same side as her broken leg.
Stayed in hospital for 3 months. Came home on 1st Feb.
By now, she couldnt walk as the stroke had affected her mobility combined with the painful leg.
Doubly incontinent plus can't walk so carers were coming in four times a day to change her (hospital wouldnt allow her home unless care was in place)
She's been aggressive and abusive towards the carers. I think her short term memory has gone worse since the stroke and she forgets they're coming so when they walk in they surprise her and strip her off to clean her up. She shouts and swears and lashes out. She's always been difficult and never been afraid to tell people what they think of them (result is she has no friends!)
Carers reported her behaviour.
Doctor and district nurse came and said she needed to go in for a "day or two" for assessments . They said it may be that she has onset of dementia so they recommended going in and they'd do medication tests to see if something would help.
Went in yesterday and they called us in saying that they were impementing DOLS - deprivation of liberty safeguard as they thought she didnt have the capacity and was a danger to herself and others. My father is 81 so I'm wondering if they're trying to protect him too?
They said the tests would possibly take 6 weeks. maybe more, maybe less. We feel we've been misled as they told us a day or two but now they're saying 6 weeks.
We set up a POA years ago but I'm just wondering if we're doing the right thing? Does DOLS override a POA?
Sorry, that went on a lot longer than I thought.
TIA
Okay, I'll try and keep it as concise as I can...
My mother used to drink a LOT. Couldnt stop her as she would just go herself to get more. She was also smoking around 20-30 a day. Always been active and independent but a very awkward, difficult personality.
Three years ago she fell down half of the stairs after drinking and broke her leg. Awful break. Hospitalised. They said she'd be in two weeks. Came home 14 weeks later but after refusing physio/getting out of bed it meant she could barely walk but managed to walk from one room to the next with a zimmer phrame. But, in addition to that, after refusing to get out of bed she became doubly incontinent . My father and I used to sort her pads out but my father also got her an electric scooter for her to have some independence but, it just meant she could still go and get more drink . We shouldn't really have got the scooter but before he bought it, as she was able to walk (albeit slowly) she would still manage to get to the corner shop to buy more. Apart from restraining her, we couldnt stop it.
Went back for a review of the surgery she'd had on her broken leg as they'd put a plate in. When she had the plate put in they said that it would be removed after a year or two after the bone had regrown. Consultant said that after two years there was hardly any bone regrowth due to the amount she was smoking. They said that the plate they put in was to support the leg while the bone was growing back but as it wasn't growing back the plate could fail at any time. BUT, they couldn't take the plate out as there wasn't enough bone regrowth. Combined with the lack of bone regrowth due to smoking they weren't prepared to do anything. She either had to stop smoking or they wouldnt do anything. My mother would not stop so she just struggled along but the leg was painful.
This carried on for a few years but, the last two years (when she was 71) she started to show signs of short term memory loss. Repeatedly asking questions she'd only asked a few minutes before.
Ok, last December, she had a stroke. Got her to A&E within an hour or two. They gave her clot busting drugs but, long story short, she almost totally recovered but there is an ever so slight droop in her face (if you didn't know, you wouldnt know if you know what I mean). But, it was the same side as her broken leg.
Stayed in hospital for 3 months. Came home on 1st Feb.
By now, she couldnt walk as the stroke had affected her mobility combined with the painful leg.
Doubly incontinent plus can't walk so carers were coming in four times a day to change her (hospital wouldnt allow her home unless care was in place)
She's been aggressive and abusive towards the carers. I think her short term memory has gone worse since the stroke and she forgets they're coming so when they walk in they surprise her and strip her off to clean her up. She shouts and swears and lashes out. She's always been difficult and never been afraid to tell people what they think of them (result is she has no friends!)
Carers reported her behaviour.
Doctor and district nurse came and said she needed to go in for a "day or two" for assessments . They said it may be that she has onset of dementia so they recommended going in and they'd do medication tests to see if something would help.
Went in yesterday and they called us in saying that they were impementing DOLS - deprivation of liberty safeguard as they thought she didnt have the capacity and was a danger to herself and others. My father is 81 so I'm wondering if they're trying to protect him too?
They said the tests would possibly take 6 weeks. maybe more, maybe less. We feel we've been misled as they told us a day or two but now they're saying 6 weeks.
We set up a POA years ago but I'm just wondering if we're doing the right thing? Does DOLS override a POA?
Sorry, that went on a lot longer than I thought.
TIA
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