Hi all,
My Dad has recently passed - funeral was on Monday. My mum needs 24/7 care. She isn’t in any way violent, doesn’t try and go outside and very happy at home but needs 24/7 care due to some eyesight loss and the dementia/confusion. My mums wishes have been to always stay at home unless she was at risk of harm to herself or others. I have been caring for my mum and dad over the years but my dad was mums main carer.
My three siblings who had little to do with mum and dad arrived on the scene more when dad became unwell. They got mum to sign a lasting power of attorney when I felt she lacked capacity- scoring 1/30 on her ACE assessment. They have completely taken over, so much so that they have planned and provisionally booked a home for mum and plan to take her there in a week. Mum is very distressed and upset about this and so am I as this isn’t mums wishes. They are saying they have no choice but to put mum in a home because there isn’t enough money to pay for her care at home.
Can I ask advice on how this works financially - if it’s at all possible that mum can be cared for at home then when mum passes and the house is sold, that money will pay for her care costs?
Many thanks in advance
Clair
My Dad has recently passed - funeral was on Monday. My mum needs 24/7 care. She isn’t in any way violent, doesn’t try and go outside and very happy at home but needs 24/7 care due to some eyesight loss and the dementia/confusion. My mums wishes have been to always stay at home unless she was at risk of harm to herself or others. I have been caring for my mum and dad over the years but my dad was mums main carer.
My three siblings who had little to do with mum and dad arrived on the scene more when dad became unwell. They got mum to sign a lasting power of attorney when I felt she lacked capacity- scoring 1/30 on her ACE assessment. They have completely taken over, so much so that they have planned and provisionally booked a home for mum and plan to take her there in a week. Mum is very distressed and upset about this and so am I as this isn’t mums wishes. They are saying they have no choice but to put mum in a home because there isn’t enough money to pay for her care at home.
Can I ask advice on how this works financially - if it’s at all possible that mum can be cared for at home then when mum passes and the house is sold, that money will pay for her care costs?
Many thanks in advance
Clair