I have learned a lot about Dementia since Mum was diagnosed last year and placed into care - just over a year on and it just goes to show what the right care has done for her - some days Mum cannot hold a conversation and just mumbles a lot of nothing and other days, you can hold a proper conversation with her. Although frail, she is receiving the right care and attention and it is clearly doing her good so at last I feel like I have done the right thing and no longer punish myself quite so much for placing her into care because had she still been at home with just Dad and outside help, I doubt she would be here now! But that is not where my story ends - a couple of weeks back Dad had an 'event' which has sadly highlighted that his mental state is not right and although he can look after himself OK, something isn't right, so much so that he has been stopped from driving and boy would you think his world has ended. All through Mum's lengthy diagnosis she never complained about anything, but Dad isn't going to be so easy to help - as long as anything doesn't effect him then the world is fine, but take away his driving licence and everyone is an ogre in his eyes - he fails to understand that what happened indicates he should not be driving and by stopping him from driving is in his best interest as well as everyone else that he could face when on the road. Every time you do something to help him, he puts a negative response in the way, or just comes across as simply ungrateful and sometimes I just think fine if you won't accept, listen or understand what has happened and that people are only trying to help you, then do it your own way. Sorry if that sounds harsh but that is what he has pushed me to in the last few weeks and he hasn't even had the referral appointment through yet!