During lockdown I was the main family carer for mum whose dementia had noticeably deteriorated because my dad was too tired to reminisce etc. Once I was allowed into their social bubble I feel that I had a positive impact on mum and I even got her baking again which she was amazing at pre diagnosis. Now my lovely dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer and is undergoing chemo for it. My issue is that my brother and his know it all wife are now helping me out with the caring, even though I've organised some fantastic carer calls from a specialist team for them both. But I feel that they are all about my dad and kind of sidelining my mum who also has a serious condition but they treat her like a fool. I am trying to support both of my parents but I don't understand why my brother hasn't got empathy for mum. She is a beautiful gentle soul and I don't want her being treated like a child by him and his wife. I'm trying to find them a care home where both their specialist needs can be catered for.