Went to see local care home before visit yesterday..not for mum,sadly the bedrooms were small,hospital beds, and poor old souls looked to be late stage,in bed or chair looking far worse than mum. Only a couple responded to my hellos or smiles, most were glazed over and looking very ill. I know mum was nowhere near this stage before her fall, so can't place her in a home like this one for sure
The cost per week was a shock too.
I just feel worn out, rang some who aren't taking new residents.
On visiting mum after, I asked about the assessment etc,again saying she couldn't be discharged to her empty house..
Mum was just asleep, when I said hi mum she said my name without opening her eyes,a good sign, but when asked how she was,she said"dead"
On a drip, because she wont eat or drink much,terrible thrush in her mouth,but I suppose due to antibiotics etc..awful seeing that,as my dad developed thrush shortly before he died
Evidently she had been awake late..sitting up,last night..and that morning..when we cant visit,..makes me sad,
I had to tell them what mum eats..as menu for that day only had a mixed fruit pot ticked..and mum hates mixed fruit cocktails..it had been untouched..and last visit,a banana dumped on side table..she hates those,plus bananas are hard going at best of times
..they make me retch if I bite too big a piece.
Hoping they take note as there were things on menu she would eat I pointed out
No mention of ss talking to us,
Pyshio seeing mum today..i was told she was very unsteady on feet.
Its draining,as visiting takes a while as hospital isnt close and I can't drive in the dark..so visiting at three means driving back in dark, so depending on hubby..who hates hospitals, and its a definate three o'clock,as we arrived at ten to three yesterday to be told off and to wait.