Mum came for Christmas - sad but happy time...
I too can totally relate after having Mum at my place for Christmas with my husband and two children. We were so pleased to have her, ('my call' the family said when we discussed it and worried if it would work) and feel it was totally the right thing (as I feel probably the last time
) - but oh such an eye-opener on how she has deterioated over the last months.
Mum could not remember where the bathroom was in relation to the bedroom (opposite), or the living room.. just up the hall.. and kept asking things like 'where can I sit'. Her vocabulary and ability to form a sentence are fast disappearing, though she'd chat away and I'd try and follow. And then there was the bath incident - when I got her in.. and couldn't get her out. 'If I just stay in here for 3 days I'll die and that will be easier for everyone because I'm so useless'. Lucid but heart-breaking. (She's
not still in there.. reluctant partner hauled her out after I'd emptied the water and dressed and draped
) Another example of lost dignity, along with the poo problems... won't go there. Oh it really is such a wicked shame. But she laughed with (
with = good,
at = bad) the grandchildren and had lots of hugs, ate well, including the forbidden wine and chocs.
She went 'home' (CH) yesterday quietly and with no resistance and seemed settled and comfortable, but they say she is withdrawn and spends a lot of time lying in her bed. I noticed this too - like it's the haven where she seems to lie thinking - trying to work out what her world has come to perhaps. It makes me so sad. What more can we all do? God bless all of you, I hoep like me you have been able to cherish the good moments.