Dad found mum crying in garden at carehome. She had obviously had dreams, hallucinations, very muddled. Staff are good they were trying to reassure her. Mum forgets when we visit. Dad now feeling so low that she is there, he is going to visit every day to see if it makes a difference. Visits are so harrowing as all mum says is she wants to go home. My way of coping at the moment is not visiting for a while,I'm not proud of it but I upset mum, I try to be strong but her crying, anger makes me cry too and it unsettles mum even more, and it makes me ill. Mum does seem to have good days and bad, I imagine this is normal with altzheimers and vascular dementia? She was the same at home, very unpredictable and I suppose the medication can only help so much! This illness has totally changed all of our lives. It is awful that my lovely mum is suffering in this way and I am worried about dad again now, he feels so guilty mum is there. He has battled 2 forms of cancer in the last year and he is getting very depressed.
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