Hi, I decided to post today as I have visited my mum this morning and am extremely worried about her and don't know what to do for the best. She's 89 years old, was diagnosed with Alzheimers in June 2021 and the problem relates to my late dad, who passed away in February 2019. Mum was physically and mentally abused, bullied and controlled by dad during all their time together and before he died he told mum that after he was gone he was going to come back and haunt her. Three years on and we are in the situation where she truly believes he's in their apartment, telling her what she can and cannot do. She has photographs of him everywhere, including under her pillow, opposite the bed, next to her chair, strapped to the telephone etc, etc, etc. I have tried encouraging her to remove some of these and perhaps have just one photograph of them together on display, but she refuses, or if I help remove the pictures they are back in the same place the next time I visit. When I saw her today she told me she hasn't slept properly or watched anything she wants to see on the TV for two weeks as Dad has been wanting to watch football, rugby and snooker. She leaves the TV on for him day and night and believes that he turns the TV off in the night. My explanation of the TV turning itself off just cannot be accepted or understood by her. I have carers to look after mum's medications twice daily - the carer last night was a male and I saw from the notes that she dismissed him early. When I asked her about it, she said that Dad was very angry that she had another man in the apartment, and that she didn't want him losing his temper with her again and go through what he used to do to her for all those years. She isn't eating or drinking properly because most of the time she falls asleep in the chair during the day and really doesn't have much of an appetite. I have spoken to our GP and the consultant at the memory clinic, but everyone agrees that no amount counselling or therapy would help as she doesn't have the mental capacity to undertake this. I am the youngest and only girl in my family with three older brothers, none of whom are involved in any way with her care, so this all falls on my shoulders. Has anyone else experienced anything similar with their loved one? I constantly try to explain that Dad really isn't there and this morning I promised her that if she goes to bed when she wants to, goes out or wears something he would disapprove of, absolutely nothing will happen to her. It's so sad ... I don't know what to do but hate the thought that she is sat there alone and feeling frightened. Any advice or comments would be very gratefully received.... thank you for listening.