Dear DTP,
I am new on here and thank you for the warm welcome. Dad was diagnosed 20 months ago and we have seen a very slow decline in his memory until 4 weeks ago when he didnt recognise my mum. In the last week he has become violent towards my mum when he does not recognise her and has called the police. Mum is 80 and in good health but tiredness taking over. We have registered with Social Services and GP has been good. We are going to get some Day Care arranged but I am afraid that the rapid state of decline will break my mum if she has to put dad into permanent care if she can no longer take care of him 24/7. I am the remaining child (my brother died) and live 1.30 hr drive away and work full time. I know so many people on here will have gone and be going through this too. When dad is okay we have a lovely time together and he has stayed at my house and I have taken him out. When he gets tired he is worse but it is not sundowner as he can be anxious and not recognise mum in the morning too.
Dad is so loving after an episode and apologises but does not fully remember what he has done. It is their 60th wedding anniversary in Sept and we had arranged an afternoon tea for a few friends and dad talks of that being on then off then on then off.
I am not sure what kind of advice I am looking for but any sharing of experiences I think would help. My mum does not have access to the internet so i will be sharing any support I have with her.
thank you in anticipation.
Llewani1
I am new on here and thank you for the warm welcome. Dad was diagnosed 20 months ago and we have seen a very slow decline in his memory until 4 weeks ago when he didnt recognise my mum. In the last week he has become violent towards my mum when he does not recognise her and has called the police. Mum is 80 and in good health but tiredness taking over. We have registered with Social Services and GP has been good. We are going to get some Day Care arranged but I am afraid that the rapid state of decline will break my mum if she has to put dad into permanent care if she can no longer take care of him 24/7. I am the remaining child (my brother died) and live 1.30 hr drive away and work full time. I know so many people on here will have gone and be going through this too. When dad is okay we have a lovely time together and he has stayed at my house and I have taken him out. When he gets tired he is worse but it is not sundowner as he can be anxious and not recognise mum in the morning too.
Dad is so loving after an episode and apologises but does not fully remember what he has done. It is their 60th wedding anniversary in Sept and we had arranged an afternoon tea for a few friends and dad talks of that being on then off then on then off.
I am not sure what kind of advice I am looking for but any sharing of experiences I think would help. My mum does not have access to the internet so i will be sharing any support I have with her.
thank you in anticipation.
Llewani1