Hi, just when I thought I had a fabulous care-structure in place - 16 hours of council personal assistance and 14 of private care + me!! - to cope with living alone (in loved flat) with her medium-stage Alzheimer's, my mum deteriorates dramatically: anger, aggression, full-on hallucinations, delusions, insulting nasty verbal abuse etc. Infections not an issue, but lack of water and sleep are potentially. I know many on here will be all too familiar with these behaviours - you have my empathy! Her carers are lovely and patient and she hurls abuse and won't cooperate with anything, literally kicks them out waving her stick like a weapon. So what now? I have informed GP, Memory Service and Adult Social Services of this decline (repeatedly) and nothing happens. How long can someone (she is 88 and very dependent on a walking stick) be allowed to go on being a law unto themselves. She is obsessed by 'her man' (invented) coming to take her out at night for supper, often waiting 4 hours in a hat and coat for him. She has left her flat on two occasions recently to find him and been rescued by me. Live-in care would be the best option but due to her already extremely difficult personality, total lack of insight, I cannot conceive of this working. Is this all a sign that a dementia home is now the only solution? Suffice to say I am the only family member (daughter) involved, nobody else in the family wants to know. Thanks for thoughts on possible next steps for her!
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