Hi,
My brother and myself both have power of attorney for my mum who moved into a care home permanently, about 15 months ago now. My brother was living with her in her house as her carer before she moved into the care home. My mum owns her house outright and we were advised by a solicitor before my mum moved into the care home that her house would need to be sold, as it’s not disregarded and my mum is self funding her care home fees.
My brother didn’t pay any rent to my mum while he lived with her but I was ok with this as he was her carer. However, he then moved his new girlfriend into the house, without discussing this, and she also didn’t pay any rent to my mum. The solicitor we had spoken to had advised my brother and I that after my mum moved into a care home, until the house is sold and they continue to live there, that they should be paying rent to my mum.
15 months have now passed and sadly, they have paid her no rent whatsoever, not a single penny. My mum’s care home fees are several thousands of £’s each month and they have just increased by almost 20% since April, so her finances are depleting quickly. I’ve got a solicitor involved to help as we really need to sell the house and we have communicated all this to my brother but it makes no difference. My brother’s also been trying to delay the sale of the house, allowing them to continue to live there rent free while my mum’s finances continue to deplete. This also means my mum now loses out on hundreds and hundreds of £’s in monthly interest from the sale of the house.
I wondered what people’s thoughts are about all of this, it seems morally really wrong? Thanks in advance for any responses.
My brother and myself both have power of attorney for my mum who moved into a care home permanently, about 15 months ago now. My brother was living with her in her house as her carer before she moved into the care home. My mum owns her house outright and we were advised by a solicitor before my mum moved into the care home that her house would need to be sold, as it’s not disregarded and my mum is self funding her care home fees.
My brother didn’t pay any rent to my mum while he lived with her but I was ok with this as he was her carer. However, he then moved his new girlfriend into the house, without discussing this, and she also didn’t pay any rent to my mum. The solicitor we had spoken to had advised my brother and I that after my mum moved into a care home, until the house is sold and they continue to live there, that they should be paying rent to my mum.
15 months have now passed and sadly, they have paid her no rent whatsoever, not a single penny. My mum’s care home fees are several thousands of £’s each month and they have just increased by almost 20% since April, so her finances are depleting quickly. I’ve got a solicitor involved to help as we really need to sell the house and we have communicated all this to my brother but it makes no difference. My brother’s also been trying to delay the sale of the house, allowing them to continue to live there rent free while my mum’s finances continue to deplete. This also means my mum now loses out on hundreds and hundreds of £’s in monthly interest from the sale of the house.
I wondered what people’s thoughts are about all of this, it seems morally really wrong? Thanks in advance for any responses.
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