hi after three years of caring for Mum, her dementia has now worsened to the point where me and my sister can't help her any more. We have found a lovely care home for her and there is a room ready for her next week.
As Mum has not much short term memory we are at a loss how to tell her that she is going. Mum has been lonely for a while now and I know it will be the best thing for her, but when we have broached the subject in the past she always says its not for her.
She went into respite care a few weeks back and although reluctant to go at first, really enjoyed it and did not want to come home!
As she has not been well recently, we have thought about telling her she is going somewhere to convalesce (this was suggested by her GP and the care home manager agreed to go along with this) not mentioning that it is permanent and hoping that she will settle and forget about being at home, but it seems a bit deceitful to me.
If we tell her its permanent I know we will get a flat refusal and a battle!
She really needs to be in 24/7 care now as she is not eating or drinking enough, has no concept of personal hygiene and is prone to anxiety and wandering in the late afternoons.
As I'm sure many people have had a similar situation, please can any one offer us some advice on how to best handle this?
Thanks
As Mum has not much short term memory we are at a loss how to tell her that she is going. Mum has been lonely for a while now and I know it will be the best thing for her, but when we have broached the subject in the past she always says its not for her.
She went into respite care a few weeks back and although reluctant to go at first, really enjoyed it and did not want to come home!
As she has not been well recently, we have thought about telling her she is going somewhere to convalesce (this was suggested by her GP and the care home manager agreed to go along with this) not mentioning that it is permanent and hoping that she will settle and forget about being at home, but it seems a bit deceitful to me.
If we tell her its permanent I know we will get a flat refusal and a battle!
She really needs to be in 24/7 care now as she is not eating or drinking enough, has no concept of personal hygiene and is prone to anxiety and wandering in the late afternoons.
As I'm sure many people have had a similar situation, please can any one offer us some advice on how to best handle this?
Thanks