My dad is 77 and has had vascular dementia for 14 years following a stroke. He lives with my mum in the South East of England and I live in the South West.
My mum has 1 carer a day coming in mainly to change his pants has he's incontinent and his mobility is declining. He's had 2 periods of respite care as mum struggles and we're hoping he will get some more in 2024. Mum is currently resisting more carers coming in.
Dad is very placid, sits and watches TV, is quiet, talks very little, can eat himself but needs help with dressing, food prep, personal care etc. He wakes a lot in the night but doesn't wonder out the house. He can be left for a few hours and mum has cameras.
Mum's thoughts on caring for dad can vary depending on how difficult things are. I have LPA for health and welfare alongside my mum and dad's nephew. Mum's latest position is when dad does need to go into care long term she will not visit him as she really struggles with the care homes and basically they will never meet her expectations of care and can be very stressful for her.
As I live over 250miles away, I would find this very sad and so would want to perhaps have dad move into a home near to me. He does not have savings or assets over the threshold and parents live in a council flat.
How would moving him to a care home near to where I live work? How would the funding assessments work? It may never happen but I would like to have a better idea just in case it did.
Thanks in advance
My mum has 1 carer a day coming in mainly to change his pants has he's incontinent and his mobility is declining. He's had 2 periods of respite care as mum struggles and we're hoping he will get some more in 2024. Mum is currently resisting more carers coming in.
Dad is very placid, sits and watches TV, is quiet, talks very little, can eat himself but needs help with dressing, food prep, personal care etc. He wakes a lot in the night but doesn't wonder out the house. He can be left for a few hours and mum has cameras.
Mum's thoughts on caring for dad can vary depending on how difficult things are. I have LPA for health and welfare alongside my mum and dad's nephew. Mum's latest position is when dad does need to go into care long term she will not visit him as she really struggles with the care homes and basically they will never meet her expectations of care and can be very stressful for her.
As I live over 250miles away, I would find this very sad and so would want to perhaps have dad move into a home near to me. He does not have savings or assets over the threshold and parents live in a council flat.
How would moving him to a care home near to where I live work? How would the funding assessments work? It may never happen but I would like to have a better idea just in case it did.
Thanks in advance