Hi, I lost my mother to dementia two weeks ago, Mother's Day is on Sunday should I be made to feel bad for not wanting to be with my family and mother in law to celebrate Mother's Day. I really do not feel up to being with people on this day as in my heart all I shall be thinking of is that I shall never see my mother again, never speak to her, never hold her hand. Any advice would be appreciated x
Mother's Day
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Not at all ! You do what is right for you and if they are good family members they would understand this - this is a day which you are going to naturally feel more loss so you look after yourself x
You do what is best for you. There is nothing worst (well actually there probably is - but) than having to put on a brave face for other people - been there, done it and it left me feeling angry and resentful and that is certainly not what you want or need.
Take care x
Take care x
Hello Trigger20: I understand how you feel. I too lost my mum in August last year. She was my best friend as well as my mum before her dementia deteriorated. I still don't want to be around people. I find it difficult to get any motivation in life and I find people just don't understand. You have to listen to your body not your head. I found in the few weeks after losing my mum I couldn't even go out and do a shop. I found it too difficult and everywhere I went I was in tears. Have you tried ringing Cruise bereavement? They have been really helpful to me. Take care and try not to do too much.
