Hi all
it’s been a long time since I have used this forum as I used to post when my mum has very early stages of dementia.
Fast forwarding to now and mum has deteriorated rapidly so much she is now a nursing patient in a dementia nursing home. I had the news two days before my birthday and then had to organise moving her across from her residential home with covid restrictions in place also! Part of her decline has been abusive behaviour, screaming and shouting. It wasn't something I had seen due to lockdown restrictions until this morning when I first saw this behaviour for myself and it really upset me- so much I broke down in front of the nurse who was with her. I am only 33 years old and I just couldn’t hold it together after seeing her act that way. It’s now left me feeling emotionally drained after that visit and tearful, low and sad. I know she is being looked after but this whole process plus restrictions for covid have made things so difficult - I don’t even know any of the new staff in her new home too so it’s always a different person who is with her when I visit. Visits are behind a screen with speakers and poor mum just has no idea how to make sense of it all. Today is the lowest I have felt in such a long time
it’s been a long time since I have used this forum as I used to post when my mum has very early stages of dementia.
Fast forwarding to now and mum has deteriorated rapidly so much she is now a nursing patient in a dementia nursing home. I had the news two days before my birthday and then had to organise moving her across from her residential home with covid restrictions in place also! Part of her decline has been abusive behaviour, screaming and shouting. It wasn't something I had seen due to lockdown restrictions until this morning when I first saw this behaviour for myself and it really upset me- so much I broke down in front of the nurse who was with her. I am only 33 years old and I just couldn’t hold it together after seeing her act that way. It’s now left me feeling emotionally drained after that visit and tearful, low and sad. I know she is being looked after but this whole process plus restrictions for covid have made things so difficult - I don’t even know any of the new staff in her new home too so it’s always a different person who is with her when I visit. Visits are behind a screen with speakers and poor mum just has no idea how to make sense of it all. Today is the lowest I have felt in such a long time