After 2 and a half months mum seems well and truly settled at her nursing home. Her hallucinations have greatly diminished and she is eating well. I had a really positive visit with her yesterday and for the first time in a year and a half she wasn't abusive or violent towards me and we had a fairly normal conversation. It seems such a small thing compared to that but mum actually seemed hyper, gyrating her hips around whenever she heard music on the Telly and being what I can only politely call being overly flirtatious with my husband and the male carers. She refuses all meds and so it wasn't that. I know I should count my blessings as she has been so unbelievable nasty to me for the last 18 months, but it was just so embarrassing!