Sorry I have brain fug today !!
if an executor doesn’t follow protocol you can ring up the probate office for your area & raise a query
I considered this for “tummy mummy’s” scheming soon to be ex.... but then Dads & Mums dementia kicked in & for me the money wasn’t an the issue as being adopted I had no claim legally but it would have been nice to have had a physical object / momento of my mums - we met & had an amazing loving friendship for over 20 years so for me it was his total lack of compassion & honesty. I know in my heart that no financial gain on his side will buy him happiness so I’m hurt by his callousness but the greatest gift my tummy mummy left me was me.... she loved me & gave birth to me & never stopped loving me.
No money can ever get you that...
good luck lovely
Xx
Thank you - I tried to ring the probate office but once grant of probate has been done, they are not interested. I would have to get a court order done via a solicitor & I didn’t have the money for this at any stage really.
I will be raising this subject with my MP because it is appalling that beneficiaries have such a small amount of power over rogue executors. You are ok if you have the money to throw at it but most of us don’t. Your tummy mummy’s ex sounds horrible & yes as you say callous I’m not leaving you a reminder of her - I’m so sorry to read this xx