Medication for Carer ?

PeterMD

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Jan 1, 2016
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N.IRELAND
Has any Carer been recommended any medication in order to continue caring.

Please inform as I'm so tired and worn out.
 

Izzy

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Aug 31, 2003
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Dundee
I'm so sorry to hear that Peter. Have you talked to your GP? He/she might be able to advise. I also wondered if you have had any respite/time to yourself. I don't know how easy that would be in your area but I think everyone needs a break from caring if it's at all possible.
 

fizzie

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Jul 20, 2011
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I agree peter, it is a break and some support that you need, medication would just be a stop gap and possibly not a great one either x
 

PeterMD

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Jan 1, 2016
23
N.IRELAND
Respite and GP

I'm so sorry to hear that Peter. Have you talked to your GP? He/she might be able to advise. I also wondered if you have had any respite/time to yourself. I don't know how easy that would be in your area but I think everyone needs a break from caring if it's at all possible.
My GP is not one for prescribing, he tends to answer with it doesn't work anyway but true. Hes probably right.

Yes our social worker suggests Respite however my mother was in hospital for a week a year ago and caused bedlam for the staff for some reason seems to need me and me alone to be anyway content. So I fear what respite would do to her without me there to remind her who and where she is.

Thank u for your reply and concern.
 

marionq

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Apr 24, 2013
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Scotland
Your Mum needs you and you need a break. She will not die as a result of you taking a break but you might become ill or worse if you don't have a break. Logic tells you what must happen next!
 

Izzy

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Aug 31, 2003
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Dundee
Would it be possible to get your mum to go to a day centre for perhaps one or two says a week? If so you would get at least a few hours a week to yourself.

I see you're from Northern Ireland. This link gives some contact details for the Alzheimer Society in NI. Perhaps your local branch would have some knowledge of places your mum might spend some time.

https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/northernireland/
 

fizzie

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Jul 20, 2011
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Peter as we said on the other thread you really really really need a break.
Why don't you take up the respite and visit your mum a couple of times while she is in respite just to reassure yourself that all is well if you really feel that you would be unhappy to leaver her the whole time or possibly even let her go for a long weekend or a midweek break 4 nights and get some rest and reassess.

You need some kind of break or you will break and then you will be no good to her or to yourself x
 

stanleypj

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Dec 8, 2011
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North West
Yes our social worker suggests Respite however my mother was in hospital for a week a year ago and caused bedlam for the staff for some reason seems to need me and me alone to be anyway content. So I fear what respite would do to her without me there to remind her who and where she is.

Thank u for your reply and concern.
There's a deal of difference between a hospital, where the dementia expertise of the available help at any one time may not be that good and a care home that accepts people for respite where all the staff will probably be trained in, and will have experience of, coping with people with dementia. They will be used to dealing with difficult behaviour. You really do need to do this, for as long a period as you feel you can manage, if you want to carry on caring. The life you describe in the last five years is simply not sustainable.
 
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nae sporran

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Oct 29, 2014
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My GP is not one for prescribing, he tends to answer with it doesn't work anyway but true. Hes probably right.

Yes our social worker suggests Respite however my mother was in hospital for a week a year ago and caused bedlam for the staff for some reason seems to need me and me alone to be anyway content. So I fear what respite would do to her without me there to remind her who and where she is.

Thank u for your reply and concern.
I know how you feel on that on Peter. OH gets upset when she is in hospital and I am not around to help with meals, etc. Luckily I can leave her for an hour or two, though no longer, to get some air. But, if that is not an option I think you need to consider taking the advice offered to leave your mother in respite in a specialist home, as when you are stressed you will make her more stressed too. Sorry
 

Aisling

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Dec 5, 2015
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Ireland
Medication foR Carer

Has any Carer been recommended any medication in order to continue caring.

Please inform as I'm so tired and worn out.
Hi Peter,

Being exhausted is dreadful. I know all about it. I can only suggest it may be possible for you to get a few hours day care. Talk to the public health nurse and see what he/she suggests. Or do what I did and visit any public care facility in your area and ask questions.

Aisling ( Ireland)
 

PeterMD

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Jan 1, 2016
23
N.IRELAND
thank u

Hi Peter,

Being exhausted is dreadful. I know all about it. I can only suggest it may be possible for you to get a few hours day care. Talk to the public health nurse and see what he/she suggests. Or do what I did and visit any public care facility in your area and ask questions.

Aisling ( Ireland)
Yes will do I seem more settled than I was earlier I didn't think I could make it through today but my 3 little nieces called in for couple of hours today and that changed the whole atmosphere thank God. I hope your well too.