not sure where to start, though I'm sure this situation is familiar to many of you.
Mam has been in a home for 2 months. After much discussion, we (my father, me and my daughter), thought the best plan would be to bring mam to my house in the morning, open stockings etc, then take her back to the home for Xmas dinner, partly because I'm not making one this year, but that's another story
Anyway, it was her 80th birthday this week and Sat afternoon we took her out of the home, for the first time, and for a meal in an Italian retaurant Nearby. All went as well as can be expected and after 2 1/2 hours, we took her back to the home.
When we got there, she refused to get out of the car. Said we had tricked her, we were abandoning her etc.
Got one of the carers to come out hoping mam would recognise her. She did and I have to say, she was brilliant with her. After half an hour, with the poor carer standing in the freezing cold, we got mam inside.
My problem now is, what do we do for Christmas?
Dad was sobbing when she wouldn't get out the car and says he can't go through that again.
What do I do?
I wish this horrible thing came with an instruction manual
Sorry for the long post. Feeling a bit lost.
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Mam has been in a home for 2 months. After much discussion, we (my father, me and my daughter), thought the best plan would be to bring mam to my house in the morning, open stockings etc, then take her back to the home for Xmas dinner, partly because I'm not making one this year, but that's another story
Anyway, it was her 80th birthday this week and Sat afternoon we took her out of the home, for the first time, and for a meal in an Italian retaurant Nearby. All went as well as can be expected and after 2 1/2 hours, we took her back to the home.
When we got there, she refused to get out of the car. Said we had tricked her, we were abandoning her etc.
Got one of the carers to come out hoping mam would recognise her. She did and I have to say, she was brilliant with her. After half an hour, with the poor carer standing in the freezing cold, we got mam inside.
My problem now is, what do we do for Christmas?
Dad was sobbing when she wouldn't get out the car and says he can't go through that again.
What do I do?
I wish this horrible thing came with an instruction manual
Sorry for the long post. Feeling a bit lost.
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