hi everyone my husband has had dementia now for 4 years and now just been diagnosed with bladder cancer they will not operate and no other treatments offered not sure what to do.
Hi
@Maggie41 my dad has advanced oesophagul cancer and is also having no treatment other than a stent that enables him to eat. His oncologist said that because of my dad's age 88 and the fact that he was also rather frail that she would rather he did not have chemo.
She said if he had chemo it would not cure him and would likely make him Ill due to the side effects and spoil however much time he has left. Chemo and dementia don't mix well it seems .
She was right because dad is still with us nearly nine months from diagnosis and doing well. He is very happy and has a good quality of life. We have no idea how much longer he has left.
Perhaps you should ask to speak to his consultant again. Dad's consultant said quality was more important than quantity although if your husband is much younger you may look at it differently. It is a difficult decision to make but we agreed to go with whatever the consultant advised as long as dad was also in agreement and he was.