Young - me?! not so Sharon!
I too have found the cards I received so gratifying too, especially those from people with whom my husband worked and spent time with and those he or we have not seen for many a year.
Neighbours though - I live in a small close and have lived here for nearly 34 years and others for longer yet only a couple have spoken, even to ask how he has been over the past 4 years. So yes, even a hug would have been nice.
Still would be, come to that.
I know people don't like to 'intrude' but some don't like to appear needy either and as you say, wallow in grief - and I'm one of those. So I guess I really only have myself to blame.
(I leave any wallowing for TP!
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Sparky, I hope you keep some of your friends. Those that stay the course and support you are worth all the ones that disappear.