Hi Folks,
I 've started trying to prepare for 'the future' .....an emotional mine field .
We live 2 hours away from my OH kids , when he was diagnosed 3 years ago his son asked if Dad needs a care home where will it be ? Close to kids kids in Hertfordshire or close to me in the south west .
I talked to my OH about it a few times since and he consistently replied 'near his kids'
He has previously said he accepts going into care and doesn't mind to go .
Unexpectedly my OH raised the topic of care homes ....... (With his Lewy body he goes from very muddled to calm and clear ) we had a great discussion but when it came to weighing up here or there we got stuck .
I told my GP about this he thought it would be big upheaval for OH to move far away . Daughter has asked if he was near them would I be able to visit every week and stay over so some one can visit him every day ?
I think it will be very difficult for me if he is 2 hours away and started to wonder what is in ' Our/my best interest , as his needs increase and I'm not able to safely meet them . We still have an affectionate relationship and whilst he is physically well he relies on me for everything else . I'm emotionally exhausted and my life has been completely taken over by his illness .
I've really struggled emotionally since diagnosis and worked hard to find support but it has often been lacking .
This question is a very very troublesome one . I thought I might 'practice' looking at care homes near me but then ........ His daughter 's have POA for finance . No POA for health in place .
Please help . Thank you Nestle X
I 've started trying to prepare for 'the future' .....an emotional mine field .
We live 2 hours away from my OH kids , when he was diagnosed 3 years ago his son asked if Dad needs a care home where will it be ? Close to kids kids in Hertfordshire or close to me in the south west .
I talked to my OH about it a few times since and he consistently replied 'near his kids'
He has previously said he accepts going into care and doesn't mind to go .
Unexpectedly my OH raised the topic of care homes ....... (With his Lewy body he goes from very muddled to calm and clear ) we had a great discussion but when it came to weighing up here or there we got stuck .
I told my GP about this he thought it would be big upheaval for OH to move far away . Daughter has asked if he was near them would I be able to visit every week and stay over so some one can visit him every day ?
I think it will be very difficult for me if he is 2 hours away and started to wonder what is in ' Our/my best interest , as his needs increase and I'm not able to safely meet them . We still have an affectionate relationship and whilst he is physically well he relies on me for everything else . I'm emotionally exhausted and my life has been completely taken over by his illness .
I've really struggled emotionally since diagnosis and worked hard to find support but it has often been lacking .
This question is a very very troublesome one . I thought I might 'practice' looking at care homes near me but then ........ His daughter 's have POA for finance . No POA for health in place .
Please help . Thank you Nestle X