My husband had pull ups (3 a day max where I live), and bag loads of the larger pads
that look a lot like an opened up nappy... (to use when we ran out of pull ups).
They delivered 3 months at a time, and these were supplied free.
I bought kylie sheets and protectors (on line) and also had a large towel/s that I tucked across the mattress,
below the sheet.
DN would come out and use a portable bladder scan, which always showed that he was not
emptying his bladder. I'm not sure if you have this facility in your area.
Eventually he got referred to a urologist who decided I could try him with convene (portable bag)
No chance, and have me fiddle with him !! .... He didn't know I was his wife ....
Doc also suggested they train me to catheterise him several times a day....
and said the NHS would supply the equipment for this.... again not an option
Soooo.... pull ups, pads, and lots of washing it was...
I had to fight to get the incontinence service in the first place.
I'd love to know who decided that 3 pads a day was your limit.
When I met with my MP I even told them this, as they had no idea.
(They had asked me what could be improved, and this was one of the list of things I gave them).