Just wanted some opinions from people of their experiences of live in carer v care in respite home. I have posted quite a few times and people will know I care for my Mum who is 90 and has AD and my daughter in her 20's who is severely disabled by a life limiting condition. They both live with me. I would like to take my daughter away this summer. She has not had a holiday since my Mum moved in 7 years ago although I have taken her away for the odd weekend, just her and me. I do find it a bit of a struggle when I take her away as I have to do all her personal care(toilet ting, bathing etc), as well as going out during the day pushing her about sometimes on steep hills etc so I have researched on the Internet and found a special hotel, all fully adapted, with wheelchair access vehicle for daily excursions and entertainment in the evening all we will have to do is go! I am already having qualms as I have not left my mother for more than 3 days and the people that provide the sitting say they could not cover a whole week which means if I go I either have to send Mum to a respite home which I am not keen on or get a live in carer from an agency who obviously won't know my Mum and I can see she will kick up a stink about it. My husband could either come with us or stay behind in case there was a problem but I would still get live in carer. When we were thinking about doing this before my Mum got so upset, said 'just stick me in a home and be done with it if I am causing too many problems' that we just gave up on the idea but I am mindful that my daughter has a serious health condition and I want to give her some good experiences to look back on before either she is too poorly or I am too old.