As my Mum's Alzheimer's has worsened, her insight into it has also diminished. I thought I was doing OK, keeping cheerful, avoiding questions and contradiction but now a crisis has arisen and I do not know how to talk to her about it.
My brother has lost his job, his marriage has broken down and he has been staying with her. He has done all the shopping, cleaning and cooking, accompanied her to medical appointments, sorted out her pills etc. It's a long story, but without her he would be homeless. However, she has now decided that she "wants her life back" and that without him there every thing would be fine. I have tried to be positive and look on the bright side, tried to distract, tried to postpone the final decision but she is adamant. I try to respect that ultimately it is her decision but throwing him out will be devastating for him - his mental health is poor and he has been suicidal - but ultimately also for her, as she will struggle to cope without him there. It is heartbreaking to see.
My brother has lost his job, his marriage has broken down and he has been staying with her. He has done all the shopping, cleaning and cooking, accompanied her to medical appointments, sorted out her pills etc. It's a long story, but without her he would be homeless. However, she has now decided that she "wants her life back" and that without him there every thing would be fine. I have tried to be positive and look on the bright side, tried to distract, tried to postpone the final decision but she is adamant. I try to respect that ultimately it is her decision but throwing him out will be devastating for him - his mental health is poor and he has been suicidal - but ultimately also for her, as she will struggle to cope without him there. It is heartbreaking to see.