Hello. My dad has been in an elder care home for people with dementia for four months now. He initially went in under a three-month contract to give my mother some respite (my mother has metastatic cancer). He returned home after the three-month stay, but his return didn't last a week. ...his delirious thoughts were out of control, and he kept thinking that my mother and I were plotting against him. It was unmanageable, so I pressed to have the home accept dad on a permanent basis. He's there now and the home is great. Of course the days are long...some activities are planned, but dad feels he's trapped there. He keeps asking me to take him home. At first he would pack his things regularly, and I would have to go there and place everything back in its place... then he stopped doing that so I became hopeful that he'd finally grown to accept his new residence. But I talked to him yesterday and he told me that he'd been waiting since five o'clock in the morning, with his things all packed and ready to go. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. Dad is under medication now, so his anxiety is less prominent, but nothing I can say or do will make him understand that he's not coming home. It's heart-wrenching for my mom and me to see him like that. Dad is physically ok, so he doesn't think he belongs there. He doesn't understand that his dementia is serious. What can I do? Any shared experience or advice is welcome. Thank you.