Hi I I am new to TP and have not posted much before but do keep in touch with all the posts. I just feel the need to off load a bit to day.
My dad 87years has VD and a long list of other medical problems he lives in sheltered housing with my brother we have just about been managing with carers twice a day me going every afternoon and brother at night, my brother has been diagnosed with throat cancer and is in hospital awaiting surgery I have been looking after dad in his own home for the last three weeks but now have to make a decision on what to do next. I have had a meeting with the care agency and have asked the SW to come and do another assessment on dad but her reply was why don't you you use your respite vouchers my reply was I'm looking for a long term solution not a quick fix after much deliberation have decided to take dad to live with me for the time being thought all was well till yesterday dad been to day care came back very agitated this went on all night wanting to go home not to his bungalow but to his mothers house in Scotland (not lived their for fifty odd years) and wants his mother to look after him. Got very aggressive never seen this before but brother has. Am now wondering if I have done the right thing but can not go on living at the bungalow indefinitely my dad lives twenty miles away so carers four time a day and no back up at night was very worrying. any help/ advice will be warmly welcomed and thanks for reading.
My dad 87years has VD and a long list of other medical problems he lives in sheltered housing with my brother we have just about been managing with carers twice a day me going every afternoon and brother at night, my brother has been diagnosed with throat cancer and is in hospital awaiting surgery I have been looking after dad in his own home for the last three weeks but now have to make a decision on what to do next. I have had a meeting with the care agency and have asked the SW to come and do another assessment on dad but her reply was why don't you you use your respite vouchers my reply was I'm looking for a long term solution not a quick fix after much deliberation have decided to take dad to live with me for the time being thought all was well till yesterday dad been to day care came back very agitated this went on all night wanting to go home not to his bungalow but to his mothers house in Scotland (not lived their for fifty odd years) and wants his mother to look after him. Got very aggressive never seen this before but brother has. Am now wondering if I have done the right thing but can not go on living at the bungalow indefinitely my dad lives twenty miles away so carers four time a day and no back up at night was very worrying. any help/ advice will be warmly welcomed and thanks for reading.