Hello everyone, I’ve finally admitted that dad has gone. We said our goodbyes yesterday at his funeral, it was a quiet affair with just 19 of us attending the ceremony at the Crematorium. We then celebrated his life with lots of homemade tea and cake back at my house, followed later with his favourite meal of fish, chips and mushy peas.
I have donated his floral tributes to his care home, so they can make them up into table decorations for a Mother’s Day afternoon tea on Sunday. I also took some which I will take to the cemetery on Sunday where my grandparents, my mums ashes and when they are ready my dad’s ashes will be scattered.
Dad was 82 when he died suddenly on the 13th March from a heart attack. He had been in a care home for 11months but he had suffered from Dementia for 5-6 years. Apart from the Dementia taking away my dad bit by bit, he had always been fit and well so his death was a shock.
I wrote my original post when he died called ‘RIP Dad’ on an other area of the forum ‘I care for a person with Dementia’ as that is where I always visited, to be honest I hadn’t noticed this area before and only discovered it a couple of days after dad had died.
Dad has left a big whole in my life now. I had spent the last 5 years or so revolving my life around his. Thinking, worrying about him and caring for him, until I finally had to admit defeat and place him in a care home for his own safety. However I now feel guilty admitting that I am slightly relieved his fight with Dementia is finally over and he passed quickly before the Dementia took everything away from him. I also take heart that he still saw me as someone recognisable and he trusted and very occasionally he would say my name in context, even though he had lost most of his communication and cognitive skills.
So life goes on and I will be starting the process of probate probably next week. I’m hoping it will be simple. My husband and I are executors of dad’s will and I’m the only beneficiary, being an only child. I’m lucky that I’ve been looking after dad’s financial affairs etc for years and as I sold his house in November, the only thing dad has remaining are bank accounts and a building Society account which he held jointly with me, so that has immediately just transferred to me. I need the Probate just for his bank accounts, there is nothing else, no debts, no shares etc.
Sorry I’ve written far more than I intended. My heart goes out to everyone who I have joined in this area of the forum. Take care.
Elle x
I have donated his floral tributes to his care home, so they can make them up into table decorations for a Mother’s Day afternoon tea on Sunday. I also took some which I will take to the cemetery on Sunday where my grandparents, my mums ashes and when they are ready my dad’s ashes will be scattered.
Dad was 82 when he died suddenly on the 13th March from a heart attack. He had been in a care home for 11months but he had suffered from Dementia for 5-6 years. Apart from the Dementia taking away my dad bit by bit, he had always been fit and well so his death was a shock.
I wrote my original post when he died called ‘RIP Dad’ on an other area of the forum ‘I care for a person with Dementia’ as that is where I always visited, to be honest I hadn’t noticed this area before and only discovered it a couple of days after dad had died.
Dad has left a big whole in my life now. I had spent the last 5 years or so revolving my life around his. Thinking, worrying about him and caring for him, until I finally had to admit defeat and place him in a care home for his own safety. However I now feel guilty admitting that I am slightly relieved his fight with Dementia is finally over and he passed quickly before the Dementia took everything away from him. I also take heart that he still saw me as someone recognisable and he trusted and very occasionally he would say my name in context, even though he had lost most of his communication and cognitive skills.
So life goes on and I will be starting the process of probate probably next week. I’m hoping it will be simple. My husband and I are executors of dad’s will and I’m the only beneficiary, being an only child. I’m lucky that I’ve been looking after dad’s financial affairs etc for years and as I sold his house in November, the only thing dad has remaining are bank accounts and a building Society account which he held jointly with me, so that has immediately just transferred to me. I need the Probate just for his bank accounts, there is nothing else, no debts, no shares etc.
Sorry I’ve written far more than I intended. My heart goes out to everyone who I have joined in this area of the forum. Take care.
Elle x
