hello
@Amanda1983
welcome to TP
I am so sorry for the loss of your grandfather; such a sad time for your family
it's lovely of you to be supporting your mum, I'm sure she appreciates you
maybe helping your mum is your way of beginning to grieve - there's no one way to feel or behave after you lose a family member; each one of us finds our own way
maybe also allow your mum to support you, she'll maybe want to stay strong for you, let her know she doesn't have to
100 miles is right; it's fine to chat about your grandfather and share memories of the times you all shared which may bring tears or laughter
when my mum died, I found a lovely photo of her smiling and waving; I put it in a frame and placed it where I saw it every day - I couldn't help but smile back at her and wave - silly, but it felt as though she was helping me through