1. Expert Q&A: Living well as a carer - Thurs 29 August, 3-4pm

    As a carer for a person living with dementia, the needs of the person you care for will often come before your own. You may experience a range of difficult emotions and you may not have the time to do all the things you need to do. Caring can have a big impact on both your mental and physical health, as well as your overall wellbeing.

    Angelo, our Knowledge Officer (Wellbeing) is our expert on this topic. He will be here to answer your questions on Thursday 29 August between 3-4pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Blimey

    Blimey Registered User

    Jun 6, 2012
    Just wanted to say....

    If you are like me at all you will - cry, worry, wonder, clean, wash, feed, dress, reassure, arrange, juggle, sacrifice, cry again, repeat, repeat, repeat, loose, find, and keep going.

    After sharing my life and home in a way I never imagined I am rewarded with - a look in the eye, a chuckle, a smile and it's worth it all.

    If its anger, confusion, denial, accusations, blame, I am here and always have been. She can rely on me. She is my mother and I am her daughter even when she doesn't know it I do and keep going.

    I will leave frustration at siblings, the illness, the system behind and keep going because I know its worth it all.
  2. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    You are so very right
    and thankyou for raising my spirits tonight with such a celebratory post :D
  3. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    North West
    Thank you from me too Blimey. It's not often that we say it, and we can't be sure that we will always feel like this, but I believe that I want and am able to carry on because it is worth it, despite all the difficulties.

    In the end what could be a better reason for being alive than trying to do all we can to ensure that someone we love gets what they can out of life?
  4. fizzie

    fizzie Registered User

    Jul 20, 2011
    Thank you for sharing such positive feelings and love xxx
  5. Quilty

    Quilty Registered User

    Aug 28, 2014
    You have said it so well.

    For all those hard days are cancelled out by going to the care home and see Mum smiling and well, sitting with her friends.

    We all live for these moments, for the brief glimpses of the people we love as they used to be.
  6. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    Well said!
  7. Stresshead

    Stresshead Registered User

    Sep 13, 2014
    I agree.......even through all the bad times I wouldn't have it any other way. My dad needs me and I love him and will be here until the end. X

    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point
  8. Louby65

    Louby65 Registered User

    Mar 26, 2014
    So very true . I have just posted in another thread how frustrated I was with something but then my mum remembered her birthday ( Christmas Day) and it made me happy . We sang Christmas songs as we decorated the tree . Good memories.
  9. sarahjg

    sarahjg Registered User

    Apr 15, 2015
    Blimey... what a lovely post.. I look in on here regularly and, like many others, feel the frustration of this horrible disease and everything that has come with it.. but you've reminded me to hang on to the things that make it all worthwhile... I know my dad is still in there when he opens his eyes ( or one eye!) and I know he knows it's me .. or when he grips my hand or opens his mouth for me to give him a drink.. Thank you and take care xxx
  10. susanh13

    susanh13 Registered User

    Oct 23, 2013
    Blimey, I love your last two paras, u have summed it up so well how I feel and have to hang on to see me through the days.
  11. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    Well said Blimey. :)
  12. nae sporran

    nae sporran Volunteer Host

    Oct 29, 2014
    Nice post Blimey.
    It's been a difficult year here, but the days when OH comes up with a little joke or smiles her warm little smile reminds me why I fell for her in the first place.

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