1. joyportsmouth

    joyportsmouth Registered User

    Mar 26, 2007
    31
    HI

    Mum Passed away last wendsday,6 months to the day my dad died.

    It was kidney failure that fineally took her.
    She had been unwell for a few weeks {not with the dementia} and the doctor realised it was her kdneys about 2 week ago.Diyalasis was an option {though there were concerns that her body coudnt take the operation to insert the shunt}and the doctor said that 'treatment was good if it was to prolong life, but not if it was to prolong death'.Even with Diyalasis,she would have only had a couple more months which would have been in hospital and not very comfortable.It was a very difficult choice but i hope i made the right one.

    You have all been wonderfull to me on here and i hope that i continue to visit the site.

    Thanks

    joy
     
  2. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    39,438
    Dear Joy

    I am so sorry to hear your news. I don't know if it's any comfort, but I think the decision you made is the one I would make if I was in your place.

    Love

    Jennifer
     
  3. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,878
    Kent
    Dear Joy,

    Such sad news. I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your mother and send sincere condolences.

    `Prolonging death` cannot possibly be the answer, and I`m sure you feel the doctor`s advice was good.

    I do hope you continue to visit TP whenever and as often as you need. There will always be someone here for you.

    Love xx
     
  4. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Dear Joy

    I'm so sorry to hear of your mum's death. You must be so upset, losing her and your dad within six months.

    I think you made the right decision. it's one I certainly would have made. The doctor's words were very apt.

    Please come back to us, whenever you feel up to it.

    Love,
     
  5. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    I am so sorry to hear your news. I must say I DO feel you made the right decision. If I had been your Mum I would have hoped you made that same decision for me. I hope you take comfort from the sentiments felt here on TP.

    You now have the grieving process but please always remember that you did your utmost for your Mum - that is all you could do.

    Take care - thinking about you at this sad time. Beckyjan
     
  6. Tina

    Tina Registered User

    May 19, 2006
    420
    Dear Joy,

    my sympathy and condolences at this sad time. And so soon after you lost your dad too.

    Thinking of you.
    Tina
     
  7. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    My heart goes out to you. You have had so much to contend with.

    For what it's worth I think you made the right decision.

     
  8. alex

    alex Registered User

    Apr 10, 2006
    1,665
    Hi Joy

    So sorry to hear your news, sending you my deepest condolences............it must have been a very difficult decision, but i'm sure your mum would agree............. it was the right thing to do.

    Sending you a big {{{{{{HUG}}}}}}

    Best wishes
    Love Alex x
     
  9. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    Dear Joy
    As you know I lost my precious Peg only 22 days ago and I am having a tough time.
    I do hope you will stay with TP,I am,we can can give such a lot to others that haven't finished the journy yet.
    Thinking of you
    Norman
     
  10. alfjess

    alfjess Registered User

    Jul 10, 2006
    1,213
    south lanarkshire
    Dear Joy

    I am so sorry to hear about your Mum.

    I think you made the right decision.

    Alfjess
     
  11. Carolann

    Carolann Registered User

    Apr 19, 2006
    59
    Nottinghamshire
    Hi joy,
    So sorry to hear about your Mum, sometimes the decisions we have to make are not easy, but I am sure you did what was best for Mum.

    I know how you are feeling Mum and Dad passed away last year within 6 months of one another, it is a difficult time, my thoughts are with you.

    Take care,
    Carolann
     
  12. Nell

    Nell Registered User

    Aug 9, 2005
    1,170
    Australia
    I echo others in believing you did the right thing for your Mum. Quality of life should take precedence over quantity of life in my opinion.

    My sincerest sympathy on your loss, and so soon after your dear Dad's passing. What a very hard year for you.

    Sending you my condolences and some big {{{HUGS}}}
     
  13. Taffy

    Taffy Registered User

    Apr 15, 2007
    1,314
    Dear Joy
    I send my deepest sympathy to you. Decisions in life are sometimes very difficult to make, but, I feel you did make the right choice. I'll be thinking of you at this sad time. Take Care. Taffy.
     
  14. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Joy my thoughts are with you.
    Love Helen
     
  15. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    1,370
    Newport, Gwent
    Dear Joy

    I am so very sorry to hear your news, and sending you my deepest condolences.

    What a good doctor your mum had, and with such good insight, in your shoes, I would have made the same decision.

    Please come back to us when you feel able.

    Love

    Cate
     
  16. lovdn2

    lovdn2 Registered User

    Jul 24, 2007
    25
    What a wonderful thing to say to you at such a terrible time, very compassionate.

    Of course you did the right thing, when you love someone you sometimes have to let them go, your Mum is at peace with your Dad and that is a beautiful thing.

    All my love to you at this time Joy and my deepest sympathy on the loss of both your parents.

    Take it one step at a time and look after yourself

    xx
     
  17. carolr

    carolr Registered User

    Jul 12, 2007
    33
    bradford
    Dear Joy

    So sorry to hear your sad news, my deepest sympathy at this sad time. I will be thinking of you and your family.
     
  18. gill@anchorage5

    gill@anchorage5 Registered User

    Apr 29, 2007
    211
    Southampton
    Take Care

    Hello Joy

    Thinking of you at this difficult time - take care of yourself

    Love

    Gill x
     
  19. Sunlight

    Sunlight Registered User

    Feb 12, 2007
    55
    My deepest sympathies. It must have been such a hard decision to make. I think the words of advise from the doctor about prolonging death are very true.
     
  20. taylorcat

    taylorcat Registered User

    Jun 18, 2006
    171
    W.Scotland
    Sad news indeed. I, too, think you made the right decision, also one which I think the majority of people would have made.

    Thinking of you.
     

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