It’s about sleep?
Why is it that the medical profession refuses to help, is it because they simply don’t care, (which is the way I am left feeling whenever I talk to them), or are they just incapable. It doesn’t matter whether you talk to the memory clinic, or the GP, the response is always the same.
After more than three years of watching the progressive decline in my wife’s mixed dementia we have reached a point where unbroken sleep is a long distant memory.
Now we live with a normal cycle of about ten nights where, by 3pm, she insists on going to bed, but refuses to on her own, after an hour of sleep, where I sit next the her and read, she will get up, wander around the house, moving things about, then getting dressed, (which is normally putting clothes on top of clothes, three pairs of jeans, four sets of underwear on the outside, none of which can be challenged or persuaded out of). She will get back into bed, then an hour later we are up again, this happens up to eight or nine times a night. We are always up around two in the morning. This makes sleeping for me as her only carer impossible. After ten days of this we then get three whole days of no sleep whatsoever, three nights of confusing, anxious delusions, three days of marked deterioration.
Finally after almost two weeks, her body gives up and she will sleep solidly for ten or twelve hours.
The following day is amazing, she is happy, bright and a lot like her old self, obviously there are still the problems with memory and skills but they definitely seem so much better, we can have a conversation and do things together.
So… although it is only anecdotal, a solid night’s sleep is proving to be the only thing that actually helps with all the symptoms, and yet the medical professions will not help with the issue of sleep. Their answer is, “we don’t like to medicate to aid sleep, but she can have some antidepressants”. It doesn’t matter to them, that myself as her only carer is always majorly sleep deprived, feeling completely exhausted all of the time, and, incidentally increasing the risk of dementia in my own future.
So now that I have finally finished moaning, does anyone have any workable ideas to improve sleep, we have tried a lot, daylight lamps, vitamin D, keeping her active all day, etc, etc.
Nothing seems to work, and respite, where we live is non existent, unless you are prepared to sell off significant body parts to pay for it, so what is the answer?
Why is it that the medical profession refuses to help, is it because they simply don’t care, (which is the way I am left feeling whenever I talk to them), or are they just incapable. It doesn’t matter whether you talk to the memory clinic, or the GP, the response is always the same.
After more than three years of watching the progressive decline in my wife’s mixed dementia we have reached a point where unbroken sleep is a long distant memory.
Now we live with a normal cycle of about ten nights where, by 3pm, she insists on going to bed, but refuses to on her own, after an hour of sleep, where I sit next the her and read, she will get up, wander around the house, moving things about, then getting dressed, (which is normally putting clothes on top of clothes, three pairs of jeans, four sets of underwear on the outside, none of which can be challenged or persuaded out of). She will get back into bed, then an hour later we are up again, this happens up to eight or nine times a night. We are always up around two in the morning. This makes sleeping for me as her only carer impossible. After ten days of this we then get three whole days of no sleep whatsoever, three nights of confusing, anxious delusions, three days of marked deterioration.
Finally after almost two weeks, her body gives up and she will sleep solidly for ten or twelve hours.
The following day is amazing, she is happy, bright and a lot like her old self, obviously there are still the problems with memory and skills but they definitely seem so much better, we can have a conversation and do things together.
So… although it is only anecdotal, a solid night’s sleep is proving to be the only thing that actually helps with all the symptoms, and yet the medical professions will not help with the issue of sleep. Their answer is, “we don’t like to medicate to aid sleep, but she can have some antidepressants”. It doesn’t matter to them, that myself as her only carer is always majorly sleep deprived, feeling completely exhausted all of the time, and, incidentally increasing the risk of dementia in my own future.
So now that I have finally finished moaning, does anyone have any workable ideas to improve sleep, we have tried a lot, daylight lamps, vitamin D, keeping her active all day, etc, etc.
Nothing seems to work, and respite, where we live is non existent, unless you are prepared to sell off significant body parts to pay for it, so what is the answer?