My dad has vascular dementia, he has no short term memory and is repeats himself constantly. Lacks empathy and can be quite nasty - he is on meds which does manage it to a degree. But he does still have lots of capacity.
My mum isn't in good health and is finding it difficult to keep on top of the usual house work, and has less patience with coping with his illness.
I go every day and offer my help and someone for her to 'vent' to - otherwise she wouldn't see anyone else.
Since I'm there every day, I have noticed that dad will not do ANYTHING. I am certain he has the ability, but just not either the will or interest. And I'm talking very basic tasks..... switching lights on, taking empty tea cups into the kitchen. All he says is 'I'll do it in a minute'. It never gets done. He watches me do the housework, empty the washing machine etc, telling me to leave it. 'It'll give me something to do later.....'
However later never comes and if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done. I am not moaning about this at all, I feel it's my turn to look after my parents...... but I would like to know if this is common with people with Vascular Dementia?
TIA xx
My mum isn't in good health and is finding it difficult to keep on top of the usual house work, and has less patience with coping with his illness.
I go every day and offer my help and someone for her to 'vent' to - otherwise she wouldn't see anyone else.
Since I'm there every day, I have noticed that dad will not do ANYTHING. I am certain he has the ability, but just not either the will or interest. And I'm talking very basic tasks..... switching lights on, taking empty tea cups into the kitchen. All he says is 'I'll do it in a minute'. It never gets done. He watches me do the housework, empty the washing machine etc, telling me to leave it. 'It'll give me something to do later.....'
However later never comes and if I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done. I am not moaning about this at all, I feel it's my turn to look after my parents...... but I would like to know if this is common with people with Vascular Dementia?
TIA xx