Hi all
It's a while since I've been on here but I'm becoming increasingly worried about my Mam. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 3 years ago but has deteriorated a lot over the last 6 months. She also has bowel problems which have left her virtually incontinent. She goes to bed at 6 every night so I don't get to see her every day as I work but she does have carers going in 3 times a day.
What worries me is
At her last assessment we were told she wasn't a danger to herself or anyone else and so could continue as she is. She was given hints to answer the questions on her memory test but still scored only 8.
I know this sounds selfish but I feel that we just can't cope any more. We made her dinner, which she enjoyed but neither of us could eat anything as the house is so unhygenic. We also found plates of mould hidden in cupboards. Presumably these were meals that carers had made her. She usually prefers to just eat chocolate and biscuits.
I know that a care home is a last resort but she can't live like that. Her carers are great but cleaning her faeces up every day has to be hard.
It's a while since I've been on here but I'm becoming increasingly worried about my Mam. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 3 years ago but has deteriorated a lot over the last 6 months. She also has bowel problems which have left her virtually incontinent. She goes to bed at 6 every night so I don't get to see her every day as I work but she does have carers going in 3 times a day.
What worries me is
- she has been seem wandering the streets at 9 at night. My son went out looking for her. She got in his car and he took her home but she didn't know who he was. She said she was looking to buy bread but had loads in her house
- She hoards and we had to break into her house the other week as she had fallen in a bedroom that we could hardly open the door to as there was so much stuff behind it
- We are continually being contacted at work by carers about her and having to get time off through the day. In this recession we are in danger of losing our jobs.
- She seems to be using the kitchen bin as a toilet. We've asked her if it's because she can't get upstaits to use the toilet but she just denies it
- Today we went round to cook her a Christmas dinner and her kitchen benches and floor were covered in faeces. Her carers have to clean this up every day but surely they shouldn't have to do this.
- Her bathroom and toilet floor were 10 times worse. She does not wash her hands so everything in her house is a health hazard.
- It is clear that she does not know who myself or my brother are, but I think she knows that she knows us (if that makes sense). Despite this she allows us to wander round her house
- She chokes when she eats. She also takes bits of food from her mouth and puts it back on her plate. This is completely new to me. I haven't noticed her doing it before. When asked why she did it she said it was too hot. It wasn't
At her last assessment we were told she wasn't a danger to herself or anyone else and so could continue as she is. She was given hints to answer the questions on her memory test but still scored only 8.
I know this sounds selfish but I feel that we just can't cope any more. We made her dinner, which she enjoyed but neither of us could eat anything as the house is so unhygenic. We also found plates of mould hidden in cupboards. Presumably these were meals that carers had made her. She usually prefers to just eat chocolate and biscuits.
I know that a care home is a last resort but she can't live like that. Her carers are great but cleaning her faeces up every day has to be hard.