I wanted to ask people about their very early experiences in noticing changes in their loved ones.
My husband has changed so much in the last 18 months. I don’t think his memory has got particularly worse. For example if someone phones me and I am out he frequently forgets to tell me but not always so in this regard his memory is on a par with mine. The main issue is in his mood and behaviour.Although he was glad to retire he did enjoy his job and I wonder if there is an element of depression to it because he misses his colleagues and having a role and responsibilities outside of the home.
Indoors he rarely talks to me except for household matters. In the evenings he will sit in the lounge with me and our daughter but whilst we watch television he watches stuff on his computer with headphones on so if I turn to to discuss what I’m watching he’s in another world and it’s not worth explaining the moment‘s gone.
He is more critical of me which I find hard. We don’t share any interests anymore.
He comes out with ridiculous statements accusing me of hiding things or throwing things away because he has forgotten where he has put them. He accused me of dragging recycling boxes across his car and when I ask why would I do that he always says ‘well someone did it’.
He can be very short tempered and although he will do tasks within the home sometimes I wish he wouldn’t. E.g today when I brought the shopping home he was trying to get some things in the freezer which was pretty full. He started pulling the drawers out, banging them on the floor, swearing etc till I could stand it no more so I told him to stop and I would do it.
He struggles now with certain aspects of technology- he recently got a new phone which he swears at too because he doesn’t know how to operate it. Technology was always his thing that he would help others.
We have a disabled daughter and he can get very impatient with her too and she will argue back at him. He no longer seems to have any patience at all.
I am having trouble separating what is a normal life for retired couple who seem to have very little in common and a nagging concern in the back of my mind. When my Mum was diagnosed nearly 15 years ago her memory problems were obvious but otherwise her personality remained the same till much later so this seems different.
My husband has changed so much in the last 18 months. I don’t think his memory has got particularly worse. For example if someone phones me and I am out he frequently forgets to tell me but not always so in this regard his memory is on a par with mine. The main issue is in his mood and behaviour.Although he was glad to retire he did enjoy his job and I wonder if there is an element of depression to it because he misses his colleagues and having a role and responsibilities outside of the home.
Indoors he rarely talks to me except for household matters. In the evenings he will sit in the lounge with me and our daughter but whilst we watch television he watches stuff on his computer with headphones on so if I turn to to discuss what I’m watching he’s in another world and it’s not worth explaining the moment‘s gone.
He is more critical of me which I find hard. We don’t share any interests anymore.
He comes out with ridiculous statements accusing me of hiding things or throwing things away because he has forgotten where he has put them. He accused me of dragging recycling boxes across his car and when I ask why would I do that he always says ‘well someone did it’.
He can be very short tempered and although he will do tasks within the home sometimes I wish he wouldn’t. E.g today when I brought the shopping home he was trying to get some things in the freezer which was pretty full. He started pulling the drawers out, banging them on the floor, swearing etc till I could stand it no more so I told him to stop and I would do it.
He struggles now with certain aspects of technology- he recently got a new phone which he swears at too because he doesn’t know how to operate it. Technology was always his thing that he would help others.
We have a disabled daughter and he can get very impatient with her too and she will argue back at him. He no longer seems to have any patience at all.
I am having trouble separating what is a normal life for retired couple who seem to have very little in common and a nagging concern in the back of my mind. When my Mum was diagnosed nearly 15 years ago her memory problems were obvious but otherwise her personality remained the same till much later so this seems different.