Hi, I’m Allison and I’m here because my mum has dementia. Yesterday she forgot my dad had died. When I arrived at her house she said something terrible has happened and she couldn’t find him. She then said she couldn’t find any of his stuff. I had to tell her he had passed. He died 13 years ago. She asked me when and what he had died of. She retained the information for at least half an hour, which is unusual. She was diagnosed in 2021 but we knew from around 2017. She hasn’t done anything like this before and it has shook me and my husband to the core. They had such a wonderful relationship and I don’t know if it’s true but in my own mind I firmly believe that my dad dying is the reason my mum has dementia. She just couldn’t cope with his loss. I always feel I am at sea with looking after my mum. My sister doesn’t help, despite her not working and I feel angry at her for this. I have carers for her and lots in place but I feel very depressed and lonely about her a lot of the time….