Hi all
I've been having laptop problems so haven't been able to post
Gill, I can only imagine a little how things may be for you - everything 'on hold' - I don't think it completely came to me that my mum was not going to be present in my life until months after her death - I pretty much went numb for some time, working like clockwork and felt I was walking through treacle - everyone feels and copes in their own way - you'll know when the time is right for each action - so leave your father's room until you find yourself walking in there one day and you start to tidy without thinking, that will be the time
I did find that two things helped me - I found a lovely picture of mum smiling and waving, put it in a pretty frame and placed it somewhere I would see it at times all through the day; I smiled and waved back at her - and I have a cardigan of hers that is pretty and comfortable, so I would put it on and have a hug from her - daft and comforting
Lou, glad you and your mum had that good day - those aqua pictures sound wonderful, may pay a visit to the local art/craft shop
I'm fine - will be spending some time tidying dad's house as grandson has moved out - I really didn't want to go back in and was so disappointed when I did - why did I expect it would be in the same state as I left it?!
dad seems to have had another downturn; he's not even walking well enough to get to the garden, incontinence worse, not grasping how to go about doing things such as getting into the right position to sit, and sadly not very happy in himself, though he does seem to settle a bit more when I visit - it's all just so saddening - maybe the heat is getting to him (why do I try to find excuses; so hard to keep accepting what's happening) - but he still told me to take care of myself when I left tonight
sleep well everyone