I am on the other side of the fence and hoping you all can help me. I met the love of my life when I was 25 but unfortunately we were both in unhappy and unfulfilling marriages and with kids so we saw each other whenever we could over the next 25 years. I moved away with hubby 30 years ago and ended it. I am now 74. My husband died 20 years ago and I have been alone. My love is still with his wife out of duty and losing contact with me for 30 years. I recently contacted him just to say hi, and found out he is caring for his wife with Alzheimers. We have been doing FaceTime for the past 2 years, so it's an emotional affair. We live 1700 miles apart and haven't been together yet. He feels like a babysitter and is very stuck, but has lots of friends that help him. We just don't know what to do as we are still madly in love but trying to do the right thing. It's hard waiting for something that may never happen. He is a healthy 79. He can't face putting her into a home, saying how guilty it makes him feel. I've tried explaining to him that he spent the last 55 years trying to do the right thing, that he deserves to have a real life for a few years we have left. Should I leave or keep supporting him and wait for him? It's so very sad and hopeless for us both. Thanks for not judging me. Spent my whole life trying to do the right thing. Note: His wife is middle stage, no short term memory, very confused, nursing home will take her, daughter tells him she would understand if he puts her in a home. Please help me decide the best thing to do. I enjoy making him laugh and bringing him some happiness but it's killing me. I just want to be with him