Hoping for some advice please! Mum has Alzheimer’s, and until a few weeks ago, her and my dad managed in their own home. A few weeks ago he had a fall and ended up in hospital. Whilst he was there, me and my siblings decided she would be safer in a care home (respite) and perhaps when he came out, they could be together in the home. She hates it with a passion, apart from meal times. Distraught and always asking why she can’t go to her own home and garden (forgets what was said a few seconds before). To be fair she was quite fit and apart from wearing the same clothes, they managed if I fetched the food. The residents in her home seem more severe than her.
Unfortunately Dad passed away last week.
She seems accepting of the fact he has gone, but is still asking to go home. We’ve decided that after the funeral, she will move to a different care home closer to my siblings.
I am wondering, for a few days before the funeral, whether to let her go home. I don’t mind being with her 24/7 for a few days, as it might make her calmer and allow the hearse to collect us all from ‘home’.
My siblings don’t think it is a good idea as it means wrenching her from home again…
Any thoughts/advice gratefully received.
Unfortunately Dad passed away last week.
She seems accepting of the fact he has gone, but is still asking to go home. We’ve decided that after the funeral, she will move to a different care home closer to my siblings.
I am wondering, for a few days before the funeral, whether to let her go home. I don’t mind being with her 24/7 for a few days, as it might make her calmer and allow the hearse to collect us all from ‘home’.
My siblings don’t think it is a good idea as it means wrenching her from home again…
Any thoughts/advice gratefully received.