I am 26 and care for my nan who is 88yo, it started as forgetting to pay bills, shoving them down by the fire or in cupboards, so i started to take care of these, and keeping tabs on what was going on, now i have EPA and registered since she became worse, so things have become easier for me as everything comes to me. She takes aricept and seems to be helping greatly for stimuli and remembering short term things better, but long term events no problem, forgets and won't do any housework or anything, will not wash up unless someone is there watching over her, even not eat properly or would eat mouldy/going off food if family were not checking on things, she goes to day care 4 times a week which seems to enjoy, but when comes home sits in chair watching tv sometimes or sleeping, member of the family checks on her every evening along with carers organised by social services 5 nights a week and nan refuses their help such as washing up/housework/making sandwiches or cooking a meal,insists she can do it all herself but wont. She has become incontinent but in denial of the fact will not accept bed/chair wetting. gets agressive when you tell her to change tenna pants as will not do on own accord, probably some kind of defence mechanism aggression. The constant bed and chair seat cover washing/changing seems alot every day, can get on nerves and stressful sometimes, and when nan gets upset, she can not see sometimes why we have taken over paying her bills etc. and not having lots of money in the house like her always getting pension from post office and keeping it in house, we noticed it wasnt ever there when bills came or in purse so they had to be paid from her savings, it took a long time to sort out for the pension to go into bank account and for her to understand why i was paying her bills. reading these forums i think we have it good Compared to some/many people though.