Helen,after all your hard work to make this work. you know sometimes i feel like running away, it is not the day to day care, i can cope with that it is if external worries crop up and what i once would have dealt with so easily , just pushes me over the edge.this morning i was shocked when a carer arrived who i had specifically asked for her not to come again, not because she was bad at her job , in fact she was probably one of the best, and i thought long and hard before i rang the agency, but she has personal problems and feels she can pour her heart out to me, in fact i was so shocked with the very private details she was telling me, i found myself worrying about her, and felt it betterto distance myself, I have not rung the agency but it is something i do not need to cope with, Jeremy kyle show also upsets trev , i turn this off straight away, it was so insensitve of your sitter to put Alan in that situation, wish we could all live in a commune where we know other people appreciate how these things distress our loved ones, you cannot resign we need you love pam