The one thing is that he told the consultant if I just admitted what I had done with the man in Spain he would let it go. But the problem with that is he would then invent another man.
Yes, he probably would, because, like a broken record, (so sorry to put it like that); this is all he is focusing on at this point, and he's getting stuck there, just as my hubby is.
It's the same as my hubby insisting there's someone around here poisoning all the cats. So the animal had to be kept locked indoors. In those days, hubby was feeding the cat every few minutes until a lot of its feed had gone rancid. There was absolutely nothing I could do about it, and on top of this, I won't go into details here, but the cat began doing very naughty things. The smell was so bad, I couldn't bear to be in the same room.
Since husband has been in hospital, I've gravitated to putting a toilet tray in, and cat is getting fed far less often. Now, there are absolutely no accidents, or smells. Being able to have the chance to do the right thing has made a whole lot of difference.
If only we knew how to change whatever our husbands are focusing on, that might help. I only wish the focus was on good things, rather than bad. (Need someone with a clue as to how to go about this!) Meanwhile, Angie, if you haven't already, make a list of things that are happening and give to GP, along with your own concerns and how it's all affecting you. You have to make a start somewhere. I know it's tough, and it may have to be repeated endless times. It's this that wears us down. But if we do nothing, we end up just having to bear it, and I can see, from all you've written, you're far from being able, emotionally, to do so. That matters. It really does.
