My 91 year old Aunt was diagnosed with Alzheimers last July. She lives alone in a relatively large, very poorly maintained house and has no children.
My uncle (her brother) is 81 and together we have been appointed legal deputies and are doing our best to help maintain her in her own home. She currently has a carer for 1 hour a day at lunchtime. Her mobility is poor and her illness (compared to my own mother's below) is progressing quite rapidly.
My own 89 year old mother (her sister) was diagnosed over 7 years ago with Alzheimers. My Brother and I, together with carers 3 x per day manage her care completely at home and she is my absolute priority, but it is challenging.
I am doing what I can for my Aunt, including her weekly shop, liaising with social services, lifeline, carers etc. However, bearing in mind my own mother's situation, I do not want to take on more responsibility. My Uncle is certainly doing his fair share particularly on the maintenance of the house side and admin side. He is not in the best of health mobility wise and I am concerned this will ultimately have an adverse affect on his own well-being.
I expressed this view to him and suggested that maybe we should consider finding a care home for my Aunt. She has savings and obviously her house to sell, so would be self funding. He agreed that taking all circumstances into consideration, it would be the logical step.
My question is how best approach the placing my Aunt with rapidly increasing Alzheimers in to a care home? Although she is rapidly losing lucidity, she can still clearly express the fact that she does not want to leave her home even though nobody mentions it. Would it be a case of taking her screaming and kicking, which is something we don't wish to contemplate. What have been other people's/experience?
Thanks
My uncle (her brother) is 81 and together we have been appointed legal deputies and are doing our best to help maintain her in her own home. She currently has a carer for 1 hour a day at lunchtime. Her mobility is poor and her illness (compared to my own mother's below) is progressing quite rapidly.
My own 89 year old mother (her sister) was diagnosed over 7 years ago with Alzheimers. My Brother and I, together with carers 3 x per day manage her care completely at home and she is my absolute priority, but it is challenging.
I am doing what I can for my Aunt, including her weekly shop, liaising with social services, lifeline, carers etc. However, bearing in mind my own mother's situation, I do not want to take on more responsibility. My Uncle is certainly doing his fair share particularly on the maintenance of the house side and admin side. He is not in the best of health mobility wise and I am concerned this will ultimately have an adverse affect on his own well-being.
I expressed this view to him and suggested that maybe we should consider finding a care home for my Aunt. She has savings and obviously her house to sell, so would be self funding. He agreed that taking all circumstances into consideration, it would be the logical step.
My question is how best approach the placing my Aunt with rapidly increasing Alzheimers in to a care home? Although she is rapidly losing lucidity, she can still clearly express the fact that she does not want to leave her home even though nobody mentions it. Would it be a case of taking her screaming and kicking, which is something we don't wish to contemplate. What have been other people's/experience?
Thanks