Hi I’m new here so not sure what to say but needed to say it to someone who gets what I mean when I say I miss my mum. She hasn’t died but she was diagnosed with dementia at 65, 4 years ago. She has deteriorated so fast she’s now in a care home and can no longer speak.
4 years ago she would visit me and my little girls every weekend. She loved being a grandma and was my rock when I was alone. I wish I could tell her how much her being there for me when the girls were babies meant to me and that she could understand and reply back. But she says nothing. She stares in to thin air a lot and I miss talking to her. I feel guilty that she’s in a home but I couldn’t care for her.
I feel like I’ve lost her yet she’s still here and that’s the strangest thing to understand and I don’t think many people do. I’m grateful for the time we had but I feel guilty when I say I don’t like being around the person she has become. It’s not my mum ?
4 years ago she would visit me and my little girls every weekend. She loved being a grandma and was my rock when I was alone. I wish I could tell her how much her being there for me when the girls were babies meant to me and that she could understand and reply back. But she says nothing. She stares in to thin air a lot and I miss talking to her. I feel guilty that she’s in a home but I couldn’t care for her.
I feel like I’ve lost her yet she’s still here and that’s the strangest thing to understand and I don’t think many people do. I’m grateful for the time we had but I feel guilty when I say I don’t like being around the person she has become. It’s not my mum ?
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