My mum is a mid 50 year old woman, she has many different types of cancer and so many ongoing illnesses. She was diagnosed with early on set dementia around a year ago and recently its deteriorated slightly but nothing major just forgetting the odd word or person's name (ie celebrities and old old friends that she no longer speaks to)
She also has bipolar and no one else in my family speaks to her including my 2 older sisters because of her old narcissistic tendencies. I've always given her the benefit of the doubt and being 20 years younger than my sisters I've helped her by myself for pretty much my whole life. Whenever we argue she always seems to get ill drastically fast and I was once told by a paramedic that it wasn't my fault and that she was actually ok she just had slightly high blood pressure and nothing else was wrong.
Last night we were arguing and then all of a sudden she called me by my sisters name, my sister hasn't been in my life since I was 3 as the refuse to have anything to do with my mum. My mum never calls me by my name as its just us two, she always calls me sweetheart. She then proceeded to ask when my dad would be home (who hasn't lived with us since I was 4) and forgot where she lived and where her room was and only remembered our cats.
Then when she woke up this morning I went to go and check on her and make her a cup of tea and I was a little grumpy because I hadn't slept at all because I was worried about her, she just said "I'll call the doctors, I'm sorry for calling you Margaret and speaking about your dad". This really annoyed me because I'm under the impression that a person with dementia wouldn't be able to recall the whole situation and definitely not the specifics. The more I thought about it the more it didn't add up and now I'm questioning everything.
I asked her how she remembered and then she backtracked and said she didn't remember and was guessing.
I'm not sure what to do or whether to believe her. Can anyone shed some light over whether it would be possible for her to remember all of that from the night before?
Sorry for the long post, thank you so much for taking the time to read
She also has bipolar and no one else in my family speaks to her including my 2 older sisters because of her old narcissistic tendencies. I've always given her the benefit of the doubt and being 20 years younger than my sisters I've helped her by myself for pretty much my whole life. Whenever we argue she always seems to get ill drastically fast and I was once told by a paramedic that it wasn't my fault and that she was actually ok she just had slightly high blood pressure and nothing else was wrong.
Last night we were arguing and then all of a sudden she called me by my sisters name, my sister hasn't been in my life since I was 3 as the refuse to have anything to do with my mum. My mum never calls me by my name as its just us two, she always calls me sweetheart. She then proceeded to ask when my dad would be home (who hasn't lived with us since I was 4) and forgot where she lived and where her room was and only remembered our cats.
Then when she woke up this morning I went to go and check on her and make her a cup of tea and I was a little grumpy because I hadn't slept at all because I was worried about her, she just said "I'll call the doctors, I'm sorry for calling you Margaret and speaking about your dad". This really annoyed me because I'm under the impression that a person with dementia wouldn't be able to recall the whole situation and definitely not the specifics. The more I thought about it the more it didn't add up and now I'm questioning everything.
I asked her how she remembered and then she backtracked and said she didn't remember and was guessing.
I'm not sure what to do or whether to believe her. Can anyone shed some light over whether it would be possible for her to remember all of that from the night before?
Sorry for the long post, thank you so much for taking the time to read